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What is Mom Shaming and why it’s Cringe

Updated: Apr 3

What exactly is mom shaming?

Mom shaming is when someone judges or criticizes a mom for her parenting style or personal choices. Such as breastfeeding, being a stay at home mom or even mom's appearance to name a few. Mom shaming can happen in person or online, and it can come from friends, family, partners, and other moms. Sometimes, mom shaming is blatantly critical or hurtful or passive aggressive.

While this may sometimes come from a place of care or concern or from a lack of knowledge of the situation. Others simply get a boost to their own ego when they put others down.

Regardless of the motivation, mom shaming is hurtful to those who receive it and those who engage in it because it harms a mother’s support systems, relationships, and community. It not only undermines the confidence and self-esteem of mothers but also continues to perpetuate unrealistic expectations and unnecessary guilt.

Is that baby in danger or are you just being petty? Moms need support and encouragement, not judgment and shaming.

Even now, people can still have unrealistic and outdated expectations about what a mother’s role ought to be. Some people simply believe that their way is right and have no fear to voice their criticism, usually under the thin guise of concern. Others may feel insecure about themselves and get a little boost for putting others down. Some see motherhood as a competition, and are always comparing and weighing themselves against others.

Mom shaming not only affects the mental and emotional well-being of mothers but also has far-reaching consequences for their families. The constant fear of being judged can lead to increased stress, anxiety, and even postpartum depression. Moreover, the negative impact of mom shaming extends beyond the individual mother, affecting the overall family dynamic and the well-being of children.

Mom shaming perpetuates the notion that there is only one "right" way to parent. This narrow mindset fails to acknowledge the diverse circumstances, backgrounds, and individual needs of mothers and children. By imposing unrealistic expectations, society places an unnecessary burden on mothers, hindering their ability to make choices that best suit their families.

Mothers often feel judged no matter what they do. Instead of criticizing and shaming mothers, society should strive to create a supportive and empathetic environment. Recognizing that every mother is unique and faces different challenges is crucial. Offering understanding, encouragement, and a non-judgmental approach can help reduce the pressure on mothers and empower them to make informed decisions that work best for their families.

To combat mom shaming, it is important to promote education and awareness about the diverse parenting choices and challenges that mothers face. By fostering an open dialogue and encouraging respectful discussions, we can promote understanding and acceptance of different parenting styles, ultimately creating a more inclusive and supportive community for mothers.

Moms can cope with mom shaming by turning their attention inward to their own needs and personal growth, setting boundaries with people who criticize and drain them, and building their support systems.

You don’t have to do this alone. Being a mother is hard, and moms are often resistant to asking for help because they feel they should be able to do it all themselves. Asking for help from supportive people can make your relationships closer and build your community. Mom shaming is an unnecessary burden that mothers should not have to endure.

It is crucial for society to recognize the diversity of parenting choices and challenges, and to promote empathy and support for all mothers. By refraining from judgment, offering understanding, and fostering education and awareness, we can work towards creating a community that uplifts and empowers mothers instead of adding to their already demanding role. Let us celebrate the resilience and strength of mothers and create an environment where they feel valued and supported.

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